Rejection, Regroup and Try Again - A Piece of My Mind on Quitting
If you live long enough, you'll make mistakes. But if you learn from them, you'll be a better person. It's how you handle adversity, not how it affects you. The main thing is never quit, never quit, never quit.--President William J. Clinton
Before success comes in any man's life, he's sure to meet with much temporary defeat and, perhaps some failures. When defeat overtakes a man, the easiest and the most logical thing to do is to quit. That's exactly what the majority of men do.--Napoleon Hill
If you hang around long enough, they think you're good. It's either my tenacity or my stupidity, I'm not sure which.--Adam West (TV's BATMAN)
Bill is a writer who befriended me on Yahoo Messenger and Linked-in wrote me a few months ago.
He typed, “Pomerantz, I am quitting writing!”
“Bold Statement!” I replied
He continued with “I keep getting rejected from everybody. This is my fourth turn down letter I gotten in a month. I am not successful in my writing.”
“STOP THAT!” I typed in shout caps.
Let me say this, Bill is a good writer. He work his imaginative fantasy and he writes mostly short stories. He has had a few things published. However, he lacks self confidence in his writing...even his wife told him that. His day job is in construction and writing to him is an outlet.
“You don't have to shout” he replied. “I just don't want any more rejections letters.”
I asked him “What is a rejection letter mean to you?”
He said, “It means I failed!”
I took a deep sighing breath and typed “So you would rather QUIT than FAIL?” There was a moment of silence. I typed “You there?”
Finely he replied, “Yeah, my wife was talking to me. Had to answer her first.”
I smiled “I understand totally.” In the back of my head, I said under my breath 'Happy wife, happy life'. I pressed the issue. “So are you going to quit writing?”
He replied, “I think so”
“WHY?” I typed in caps again, wanting to know an answer. I am bullheaded that way.
He said, “Cuz I failed!”
I wanted to scream at him so badly the words you did not fail, Bill. However, I asked him if he saw the movie Cool Runnings?
He replied with a set of question marks. He then typed “Isn’t that the film about the Olympic ice skating team?”
“Bobsledding team with John Candy.” I corrected him
“Oh yeah, the Jamaican team. I remember the film now” he replied.
I typed, “They were underdogs. They faced set back after set back. Everything was placed in their way. Many thought they would fail. Many fellow Olympians had no respect for them as a team of bobsledders.”
“But they did fail!”, he typed back
I replied, “Well Yes and No.”
“HUH” He typed.
I told him, “The Jamaicans crashed due to a problem with their sled and didn't finish their run. The team didn’t quit. They walked their sled to the end of the course. Fellow Olympians applauded them as they carried their sled down the track. They earned and gained respect. So, in my opinion, they didn't fail nor did they quit”.
I think a light dawned on him, because he typed, “I get it, Pomerantz.”
I typed back, “So you resigning from writing anymore?”
He replied, “Well I am going to work on a story tonight. So you tell me?”
“I don't have to...I already know”, I replied back.
Postscript, Bill sold that story a few weeks after he wrote it!
So don't quit when you get a rejection letter…regroup and try again.
Reach for The stars
Columnist: Bennet Pomerantz has covered the Audio medium for the last 20 years. He has syndicated newspaper columns, AUDIOWORLD and "Movies of Your Mind", in Affaire De Coeur Magazine. In which he showcase his vast and diverse knowledge of the spoken word medium.
He is also known as a media review critic (books, music, graphic novels, DVDs, CDs) in his weekly syndicated newspaper column "A Piece of the Page". He also is a ranked media reviewer for Amazon.com. http://www.facebook.com/bennet.pomerantz1 / E-mail: firstname.lastname@example.org